Waiting Ain't My Forte
I don't do well with the whole waiting thing. I am a very impatient person and I feel a lot of stress when I have to wait longer than I'd anticipated for anything. I especially hate sitting around waiting for the phone to ring or an email to show up. I start to go down a very dark and dangerous road.
I blame my mother for this, naturally. When I was a kid she was always, always late to pick me up, didn't matter where I was or when she was supposed to be there. I was always left waiting. Of course, being a child, my imagination took me to the worst possible scenarios pretty quickly and consequently, by the time she showed up, I was usually in quite a state. Pissed and nervous is not a good combination.
When it comes to my having to be somewhere, I am almost always on time, if not a few minutes early. I'm not one of those crazed people that has to be extremely early, but I do everything in my power to be on time. Unfortunately, I can get irritated and upset when other people/things cause me to be late, which also sucks and is not good for my blood pressure.
I'm not sure where I'm going with this. You've probably figured out that I'm writing this while waiting for someone to call. What can I say. It's either expunge it from my system by blogging about it or finish cleaning the house, and we all know what my choice will be in that scenario.
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My father was always late, my favorite being late to Thanksgiving dinners
and people would be finishing their meals, that sucked! Now I compensate
for that by being the first at parties and meetings... my wife hates that
(the party thing specially)
you see how our parents warped us? and we're guaranteed to be doing the
same thing to our own dear children, only we won't know how it will affect
them until years later. p.s. i'm with your wife on the party thing, you
know, it's cool to be fashionably late in that case--as long as you don't
come too late for the food, that is! :)
I also have trouble with the waiting thing. My spouse has major trouble
with time - it's like she has little grasp of it and is aware of it being a
problem since it caused her trouble years before we even met. I try to be
forgiving and supportive at the same time that it drives me nuts and I feel
trapped - most activities we do together require some degree of
uncomfortable waiting which results in me having trouble enjoying the
subsequent activity. For years I've been trying to change myself and fix my
"impatience" thinking that things will get better just I learn to take it
easier. But lately I've come to realise I'm not so impatient afterall, and
haven't had impatience troubles with anyoneelse before.
funny how our loved ones test our patience the most sometimes! i have a
friend who was very much the same and was always late. her husband gave up
trying to change the situation and started leaving to go places without
her. she would show up eventually. i guess you have to get to the place
where you finally decide which approach will cause you less stress! good
luck. :)
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