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My Book Club Doesn't Like Me . . .

posted Wednesday, 4 June 2008

     I don't think the ladies in my book club like me . . . . Well, let me rephrase that. Let's just say they don't like the books I've chosen for us to read.

     A couple of months ago I suggested we read Atonement by Ian McEwan and they hated it. A couple of them didn't even finish it (there are only five of us in the group). This month we read another selection of mine, The Visible World by Mark Slouka, which I mentioned the other day.

     I loved it. I thought it was beautifully written, haunting in the way he juxtaposes the ordinariness of life with loss and love and sorrow and the horrific things people had to live through during World War II, specifically in Czechoslovakia. As soon as I was done reading it, I started it all over again.

     In fact, at our meeting I wanted to quote entire paragraphs and talk about how much it moved me. I wanted to tell them how much I felt for this woman who grieved so deeply and for so long for what she had lost. I wanted to tell them that I understand the boy whose mother was so distant throughout his childhood because she was lost in her pain and her memories. However painful they were for her, she couldn't escape them and she couldn't be fully present for her child, and I understand that from both sides.

     But I didn't tell them all that because they didn't see it that way. They got hung up in the slow pace of the story and the details and the descriptive language. It didn't touch them like it did me, it bored them. Tell me, how could you read this and be unmoved:

    And I remember knowing that the dream was true and yet realizing, in some half-formed way, that men rarely had the courage or the cruelty of their dreams and that this was good because life was lived among many kinds of things, all of them pushing for space, for air, all of them equally true: a wilderness of love and despair, laughter and rage, heroism and pain, while dreams, dreams were a haunted parkland--a stately oak, a bench, a fountain gushing blood.

    So I don't suppose I'll be suggesting another title any time soon, as I think I have a different idea of what makes a book worth reading than they do. And that's OK. I'll just read them on my own.

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1. John left...
Wednesday, 4 June 2008 10:53 pm :: http://www.yourcheaptravels.com

good choices, but you know opinions and taste often differ on great extremes.


2. nat left...
Thursday, 5 June 2008 7:55 am

Let them read Oprah books, for that is what they deserve.


3. just a girl left...
Thursday, 5 June 2008 2:27 pm :: http://needlessinput.blogspot.com

And that's why book clubs are tough and a lot like school. You read things you don't necessarily like or get or you love it and no one else does.

That passage is beautiful btw.


4. mjrc left...
Thursday, 5 June 2008 2:36 pm

you all three make me feel very supported. :) jim--they actually acknowledged to me that even though they didn't like it, they appreciated having to read something they never would have picked for themselves, so i guess i'm ok with that.

nat--let us hope and pray it never gets that bad! although in the beginning, oprah picked pretty decent books. it was only later that she started picking all those gooey novels.

jag--you're so right. i think the thing that bothered me was that they didn't even seem to want to hear what i had to say, because they just didn't care. oh well! that passage is pretty representative of the way he writes, i'd say. maybe you would like this book! :)


5. Greer left...
Thursday, 5 June 2008 6:50 pm

I thought that was a beautiful passage. I also have a hard time finding people to discuss books with, so I feel for ya. I


6. mjrc left...
Friday, 6 June 2008 7:06 am

thanks, greer. they've been more willing to discuss other books we've read, it just seems to be the ones i pick that they don't get into! oh well. :)


7. Floridian left...
Thursday, 3 July 2008 9:25 pm

A novel needs more than beautiful passages. It needs conflict, plot, and character development to sustain readers' interest. This novel begins strongly but then meanders for many chapters. Most readers hate this and come to resent the writer.

The passage you're so taken with seems more emotive than evoking to me. It wallows in its own beauty instead of making me feel the same emotion the writer felt when he wrote it.


8. mjrc left...
Friday, 4 July 2008 4:40 am

i can see what you're getting at about the novel meandering, but after reading the whole book i appreciated that he took so many angles to look at the same thing. i knew very little about what happened in czechoslovakia during the war and so what might seem like his repetitive storyline actually put the love story in context for me.

the other point, about the passage being more emotive than evoking, well, this entire book resonated with me. maybe because i had a personal connection to it--emotionally--i liked it better. that passage in particular spoke to a lot of things that i've been dealing with in my own head, my own heart, so it stood out to me as being particularly true.

honestly, i don't care that my book club friends didn't like the book so much as they didn't even want to discuss it. so thank you for actually talking about it with me! :)


9. Floridian left...
Friday, 4 July 2008 8:58 am

People do have different taste, and it doesn't happen often that many people like the same book, that it resonates with many. But every once in a while a book comes along that does--that's a true masterpiece.

You wrote that "after reading the whole book i appreciated that he took so many angles to look at the same thing." Here's my musings and questions to you in regards to this comment:

1. Many readers do not need to look at the samee thing from many angles. They get bored when they encounter repetition.

2. If you picked up this book without a cover and began reading, not knowing who wrote it, would you read to the end? In other words, was your attention primed by the knowledge that it had gotten good reviews?

3. Did you know when you were reading this book of Slouka's position within creativing writing academia? Is him being a professor of Creative Writing something that lend credibility to his work as you were reading it?

4. Would a Joe Shmoe submitting such a manuscript to Slouka's agent get noticed or would he get a form rejection slip in the mail.

Looking forward to your replies.


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